Building self-belief for successful weight loss
Successful long term weight loss can often be affected by our own ability to really believe and trust in ourselves, that we are capable of losing the weight and keeping the weight off. When we have tried so many diets or the latest exercise craze and we have either lost interest, or seen the yo-yo effect on our bodies.We may feel we “want” to lose the weight but haven’t followed through and frequently let ourselves down by self-sabotaging our efforts. Frustrating isn’t it? And it can be difficult to then truly believe that we can lose weight, when we have lost that trust in ourselves that we will actually follow through with actions on a consistent basis.
It is essential that we build self-trust for weight loss, so that we are fully committed and believe that we can lose and keep the weight off. So how do we do this?
To build self-trust for effective weight loss, we need to be 100% committed and positive. So, how do we do this when we have let ourselves down so much?
Forgive yourself and move on. Change how you talk to yourself and others. I often hear from weight loss clients that they believe that they can’t do it, that they aren’t capable and that they will “try” or “hope” to do their daily exercise or “try” to eat smaller portions. That they are really “wanting” to lose weight.
Losing weight isn’t about “Trying”, “wanting” or “hoping” to lose weight. To build self-trust you have to be 100% committed. To convince yourself on every level, you need to begin to change your language and express thing more positively. Delete the words “trying”, “wanting”, and “hoping”. “Trying” to lose weight, you will keep on “trying” and failing because really you aren’t 100% committed. Use instead “I am going to fit my exercise in today at 7pm”, I am going to run 3k today. “Wanting” – Yes, you will keep telling your subconscious mind to continue to “Want” and not actually “have” those changes you desire. Say instead “I have 5kgs to lose by July”, I am totally committed to losing 5kgs”
Believe it or not, your subconscious mind controls you 80% of the time. Be mindful of that, and you have to teach your powerful sub-consciousness to support you 100%, rather than sabotage your efforts by making you continuously “Wanting” to make those healthy changes, instead of doing it.
- Set a daily health goal. It’s great to have long term goals, however it is the daily and hourly action that you take, which will enable those long term changes to your health. When you wake up, consciously choose to prioritise your health and think how am I going to look after my health and fitness today? What healthy things am I preparing to eat and when can I fit in my exercise? Do I have my water bottle? How can I plan to make these things happen more easily in my life? What can I put in my diary today?
- 100% commit to your actions – I am going to the gym at 10am. (Take note I haven’t written “I will try to go the gym, or I hope to go the gym”)
- Have a daily affirmation – Put your affirmation somewhere you can easily see it, so that you are reminded of it on a daily basis. It could be on your phone, fridge or mirror. Some examples could be: – “I am fully committed to improving my health and wellness everyday”. “My health and wellness is my number one priority”. Speak positively and visualize yourself eating healthy today and doing your exercise.
- Consequences for letting ourselves down: – If we let ourselves down, it’s pointless just feeling guilty and mentally telling yourself off. Teach your subconsciousness that it can’t get away with letting you down. As humans we naturally gravitate towards pleasure, so if you can teach your subconsiousness that letting you down is a “painful” experience. The next time you try to self-sabotage, you will remember that the daily efforts that you take are making you happier and more confident in your body. That you want to do them because it is making you happy. Decide to be a grown up and take full responsibility. Choose an appropriate healthy consequence for letting yourself down. It could be that you will have to do double your exercises for the following day, or that you have a smaller meal. Remember that every day (hour) is a new beginning where we can take control of our health and make the right choices.
- Get Accountable – Telling the world what you are doing is a great motivator to ensure you fulfil your goals. There are plenty of ways to do this through a life coach, health coach or personal trainer. Or you can create posts on Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest and run keeper. There are other on-line software tools that can keep you motivate and on track for your goals.
Remember to reward yourself when you have completed a goal or task you have promised yourself. Mentally, or physically pat yourself on the back 😆 , Think of other none food related rewards, like a new outfit, facial, massage, or sauna.
When we learn to truly “trust” in ourselves, our confidence, sense of self and determination continues to grow and we begin to believe that “Yes, I can do this”